You Can Be a Mother & Be Educated too

If someone would have told me a year ago, I would have a son and be married... I would have sarcastically said "Yeah right." Back then, I had plans and dreams of becoming a Publicist, living in Atlanta and working in the entertainment industry. Those plans and dreams have been altered but I have realized I can still fulfill my dreams. As women, we must realize that becoming a mother doesn't mean we have to put our career goals on hold.

To all the "16 and Pregnant" MTV girls, you can still get your GED or high school diploma, go to college and get a degree. I don't know how many times I've watched that TV show and saw teenage girls struggling to continue getting an education. You can take online classes, burp and feed a baby at the same time. You can read while your child is taking a nap. I drove from Jacksonville to Orlando for four straight months, two days a week my last semester in college and worked a part-time job. Don't let God's gift to you, your child deter you away from your goals. If anything aspire to show and teach your child that no matter what obstacles come your way, you will and can overcome.

I'm not saying it's going to be easy. I'm just letting you know that it can be done. There will be times when you cry and feel like giving up. There will be times where you feel like your world is turning upside down. There will be times when you feel like everyone around you is against you. But just know that tomorrow will be better, it has to be - Because you will do everything in your power to achieve your goals.

Remember, you can do anything you put your mind to.

Learning How to Walk

At one time, we all didn't know how to walk. We were all crawlers and our parents had to carry us around. My son is learning how to walk. He still clings to the side of furniture, holding on because he's afraid to fall. I love to see him take steps, his arms and hands in the air while he tries to keep balance. When he does fall, I say "Good job" and clap my hands. I want my son to know that it's OK to fall and get back up again.

In a way, I feel like I'm learning how to walk too. Learning to walk alone without my husband here by my side. Learning to be dependent on myself and budget money for our family. As adults, we believe we already know how to walk yet we're afraid of falling. What I'm saying is that we're afraid of failing so we don't take the steps to fulfill our dreams or self. 

Be a child, hold on to those around you for support but take steps toward fulfilling yourself and personal goals.

Learn how to walk all over again.